The Unspoken Contract
|When two people pair up to train there is an unspoken contract, this is needed as both persons are offering their bodies to the other so that techniques can be learned. Without this contract and the trust that it enables very little training can occur. We use our partner's body to test our ability to properly perform the movements we need in self defense. Ego has no place in the training hall.
There are two parts of this contract, that of the more skilled or senior partner and that of the less skilled or junior partner. The senior, or more skilled partner contracts to NEVER do the techniques any harder or faster then the less skilled or junior partner is willing to do. This is a given and must never be violated. That senior or more skilled partner is also responsible for making a training situation where the less skilled partner feels comfortable in saying how hard or fast they are willing to train. This falls on the senior partner, it is their obligation and responsibility.
The junior or less skilled partner has the obligation to tell the senior partner just how fast or hard they are willing to train. If either is not satisfied with what is arranged both have the right to choose a different person to train with. Both may agree to train quite fast or quite hard and that is their choice and their responsibility. It is usually not very productive as injury becomes much more likely. Injury in training is something to avoid. Fast movement while attempting to learn a technique only slows the process of making it part of your muscle memory. Injury will always be with you even though you think you've healed. Your body will always remember and tell you again that it
was a bad idea. It will talk to you and eventually tell you every day that it is still there.
This contract must never be violated. It must never be broken. Should that happen it destroys the trust that is needed to train in a way that allows skills to improve. Without that trust little progress can be made. Our task is to avoid intimidation or fear in our uke so both can learn. While fear can be a teaching tool, it is not the most efficient
If another trainee observes such behavior it should be brought to the attention of a more skilled or senior person and it is then their job to teach the violator of this contract in a very specific and graphic way that such behavior is not permitted. All students and instructors are entitled to respect and it must be offered to all until there is a violation of this respect at which time respect is withdrawn from the violator probably in a painful manner.